A transphobic woman is not a feminist; she is overly concerned with policing the bodies and expressions of others.
A woman against reproductive rights — to use bell hook’s own example, and an issue close to your heart — is not a feminist; she prioritizes her dogma or her disgust over the bodies of others.
An ableist woman is not a feminist; she holds some Platonic ideal of what a physically or mentally “whole” person should be and tries to force the world to fit inside it."
Just your daily reminders:
- Racists are a problem
- White people are not
- Homophobes are a problem
- Straight people are not
- Transphobes are a problem
- Cis people are not
- Sexists are a problem
- Men are not
And most importantly,
- Hating an innocent person solely because of their race, sexuality, or gender makes you a fucking asshole
My mum used to work with battered women & victims of domestic violence, she once told me that legally (this was in NSW, Australia) none of the counsellors or other staff members were allowed to suggest to these women that they leave their abusers. Why not? Because often, leaving can make things so much worse for these women and that’s when they and their children end up dead/beaten to the point that Christy Mack was beaten to.
Instead, my mother, my staunch feminist mother who could kill any man with one look, had to listen to these victims tell their stories knowing that she was not able to tell them to run. The official policy was to teach these women how to make an ‘escape kit’, an inconspicuous bag containing spare keys, enough cash to get them somewhere safe, a spare phone if they had the financial means to acquire one, a change of clothes, etc. The official policy was to teach these women how to escape from their own homes if they or their children were being directly threatened in that moment; how to take off flyscreens to quietly climb out of windows, etc.
I don’t know about the rest of the world, but this was the legal policy in my mother’s line of work. I cannot stress enough, that it was illegal to tell these women to leave their abusers, because that would put their lives in worse danger than before.
Christy Mack escaped from her trained MMA fighter ex boyfriend as he was trying to find a knife to use to kill her. With broken ribs, a ruptured liver, broken eye sockets and knife wounds all over her body, Christy Mack ran down the street, knocking on multiple doors until someone who could help her answered her pleas.
I am disgusted and amazed at the comments I have seen today; not only have I seen comments blaming her because of her place in the sex industry; not only have I seen comments blaming her for being involved with an MMA fighter at all; not only have I seen slut shaming in the form of ignorant young men accusing her of cheating on Koppenhaver; I have seen extremely sheltered and privileged young women blaming Mack for her continued involvement with Koppenhaver. I have seen girls make snide, scathing comments calling Mack ‘dumb’ for allowing her abuser access to her location, her phone number, keys to her house, etc.
All I see, when I read these accusations, is a smart young woman doing exactly what she had to do to stay alive.
Let’s just take a moment to appreciate how hard Christy Mack fought for her life, and actually made it out of there. I doubt I could break out of my own home undetected with broken ribs and eyes punched shut; if it were me I’d be dead. An incredibly resilient, powerful young woman is still alive right now against all odds. I wouldn’t be, and to be honest, you probably wouldn’t either. Let’s commend her for that.
Yes yes yes yes yes.
If you claim to be a feminist and you shame girls for wanting to do traditional things like take their husband’s last name or be a house wife then you are doing it all completely wrong.
Feminism isn’t an elite group who defeats gender norms, it’s a group who accepts ALL women’s choices.